Returning to Sessions after Covid19 ~ Here Is Some of What You Need to Know

For Calgary clients

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Massage Therapy & Holistic Sessions are scheduled to be a part of Phase 2 in re-opening businesses in Alberta. Two dates have been given as possibilities June 19th and June 12th. As Calgary’s numbers are higher there may be a delay.

Regardless of when, please be assured that I will be following guidelines issued by my association and AHS (when they become available. So far they include a few changes and you can find more information here. 

Requirements and guidelines are fluid, as is the re-opening date. The best places to keep up to date with my schedule information and booking appointments are; my Facebook page, or on Instagram.

I am really looking forward to seeing you soon!

 

 

For Fraser Valley clients

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Good News!

BC has already allowed Personal Service businesses to re-open and I will be offering holistic sessions on June 12th, 13th and 14th.

Please read the information at this link and then contact me (handtohealth@gmail.com) to book your sessions.

Sorry, I am not accepting new clients in the Fraser Valley at this time.

Phase 3 in the Journey – Maintenance and Moving Foward (A Journey Into A Holistic Approach to Discovering Balance During Covid19 – 6)

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OK, so you’ve done the work, peeled back layers of your life, like an onion, to discover at least one thing that is no longer working for you. That something is up for change as you create holistic balance in your life. You’ve explored the ways that work for you and hopefully found 2 or 3 that work and you’re in the process of integrating those changes. Now what?
​Integrating changes in your holistic living takes time, patience, focus and practice…and not being hard on yourself when you backslide, and you possibly will.  The habit or belief that you’re wanting to change has been a part of your way of being for how long? It’s difficult to create that kind of change over night.

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​You embraced that old belief or practice for days years, perhaps your entire life because it was instilled in you as you grew up. You practiced it regularly and lived by it. Just deciding that it no longer fits doesn’t alone shift the habit, practicing and reminding yourself of your new belief, embracing ways of living that new habit, will help to reinforce it, and eventually it will become as 2nd nature as the old belief.
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​Depending on what you’ve chosen to change or if you’ve taken on many different beliefs and practices to shift, the next steps can become a picture into your view of yourself. In committing to do or believe things differently, in a way that serves you better, you may run up against some roadblocks. Do you feel worthy of the change, or do you practice enough self love and self care that you will easily embrace something you know is better for you.  Sometimes those roadblocks mean taking a step back to kindly and lovingly remind yourself of your amazingness.

Discovering ways to Embrace Change

Once again this path finds you on the exploratory part of the journey. You know what you want to change and you’ve committed to making the change but how do you reinforce that change until it becomes habit? Here are some ideas:
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~ Look at your day to day schedule, where and how many times can you fit in the practice of this new habit or belief?

~ Affirmations are helpful but you may need to see or hear them regularly. Recording them to play first thing in the morning or at night can impact the subconscious brain. For those visual learners, sticky notes with words or pictures can help. I find placing them on my bathroom mirror helpful as it’s where I look in the morning when getting ready for the day and at night, just before sleep, so my subconscious has that last message before dream time.
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~ ​Sometimes a scent can help us. Jasmine is a great tool for learning and helping the mind to retain information, Peppermint will bring that information forward
~ Positive and constructive self talk is helpful when we find ourselves slipping into old patterns. Berating yourself isn’t helpful but using kind and positive words to remind yourself is.
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​~ ​Practices such as Reiki, Meditation and Prayer can help us to subconsciously open up to the new habit or belief and embrace it within.

~ ​Do you have a supportive network of people who will help you , cheer you on, remind you of your amazingness and ability to make this change. Your tribe can definitely increase your vibe!

What’s next in Your Journey towards Holistic Balance?

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Maintaining your holistic balance is something you do for you. You will, through exploration, find those ways that help you to maintain it. As you embrace and incorporate different habits and beliefs it becomes akin to peeling an onion, you’ll discover other layers and dimensions that you may want to shift and change. It becomes a lifelong journey, but an exciting oneEmbrace who you really are in mind, body and spirit. 

Phase 2 in the Journey – Acceptance and Investigation (A Journey Into A Holistic Approach to Disc0vering Balance During Covid19 – 5)

​At this point in our journey it’s accepted that you have embraced the idea that the health of mind, body and spirit are all integral to our holistic well-being, and that it’s totally ok to have any and all emotions during changes in your life that affect all parts of you. If you’re not at this point yet then move backwards through the previous blog posts…this next part of the journey is interesting, playful and enlightening.

Each individual’s path towards Holistic balance is as unique as they are and the next part of the journey will assist you to discover just what works for you, and what doesn’t. It’s time to explore! While most of this part of the journey can be playful, fun and filled with AHA moments, it can also bring some anger, tears and upset over the amount of time you’ve spent with what hasn’t worked and how much time and effort you’ve given to that.
I will say it again. Cut yourself some slack! You are here now and you’re putting energy towards your present and future self. The past probably taught you a lot of life lessons and we need those moving forward. They’ve created who you are today.

Let us Investigate

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Journaling, writing notes, quite meditation, drawing, painting…what ever feels right for you to explore the following:

  • What isn’t working in your life? Make a list and beside each point place a tick beside those things that you’re still doing or putting effort into even though they aren’t working.
  • By hanging onto and continuing to follow a path that doesn’t serve you, there must be some reward or way in which that activity is serving you. What is it?
  • If you allowed yourself a few minutes to day dream, what could you replace the activity or action with that would “feel” better, or as though it would work.
​We often continue what isn’t working out of habit, a need for the reward or because we are “shoulding” on ourselves. (I should do this because….) So it means some further exploration…
  • What beliefs, patterns, habits are yours and work for you, as opposed to the ones you were taught or are because of societal expectations?
  • Are those beliefs, patterns and habits working for you? Do they still fit?
  • For those that don’t feel like they do any more, what could happen if you let them go (the worst that could happen and the best)? Would you be ok with that?
  • What beliefs, patterns and habits would you like to embrace? Does it feel safe to do so?
Change can be hard! For example: If we embrace a pattern of panic when our life changes it could be because it’s what we’ve always done or we witnessed that as a continual response from an influential adult as we grew up, or it can also be that we’re picking up on the panicked energy of those around us, that the energy really isn’t ours, it just feels like that.
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I embraced this pattern of panicking about change for years and still at times will feel it raise it’s head, it took some work to discover where it originated. I’ve always been very sensitive (empathic) to the energies of people around me. In my profession it’s been a wonderful trait to have, however at times it can be draining. But that didn’t feel as though it was where the panic response originated. So through journaling and meditation I traveled back through my life and hit on where it originated. My mother was prone to histrionics and could have the entire household in a panicked uproar within minutes. While she may have been panicked and hysterical over something small, as a child I didn’t have the ability to determine that. So there were a lot of things that I felt scared and panicked by, that really were not that big a deal, and that I could eventually put aside as a threat or a danger.

Growing up during the last World War, in Portsmouth, where bombs were dropping and air raid sirens blaring, I understand why my mother had developed this pattern. It would have been a frightening time for children and the adults around them. Her parents died before I knew them, but it could also have been a trait that one or both carried and therefore, passed on to my mother.

Coming to that space of understanding really helped. There was no blame to place here but instead a starting point for my journey in understanding and releasing my panic response to change. An “AHA” moment!

Resources for Investigation

The journey from this point forward is really quite interesting. Discovering those patterns of habits and beliefs, exploring their origins and deciding if they still work for you or if you want to release them in moving forward.

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Think about how you respond to change on all levels: mind, body and spirit. Take your time and begin to investigate and explore where your responses originated. Do you want to make changes?

​Take your time with this and understand that it’s a task that is never really completed. As we journey through life we peel the layers of the past away, like the layers on an onion. There is always another, deeper layer to investigate. It’s fascinating.


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While investigating be sure to replace the energy of what you want to release with a picture for the future. Ask yourself what makes you feel enthusiastic about life? What increases your energy on a holistic level? What activities can you participate in that support and are consistent with new beliefs and habits? Fear and resistance may come up and are common when we are exploring the unknown. Take your time

Tools to help

  • Meditation and Prayer, Activities that help you to be “in the moment”
  • Creative Visualization during meditation, vision boards…
  • Positive self talk, affirmations, mantras
  • Journaling – in written or art forms
  • Having some automatic stops in your mind to any negative or resistant messages that pop up. Some use “Cancel, cancel, cancel” when they find their mind wandering to negative ideas
  • Don’t compare yourself with others and keep conversations to those people who are supportive of your journey
  • Fuel your body with good nutrition, embrace mental engagement and actively nurture your spirit
  • Practice Reiki on yourself or ask a practitioner for a long distance session
  • Do you read cards such as Angel cards, Spirit Animals, Tarot or other? Sometimes they can be a reassurance that you are on the right path, or may put forward new ideas moving forward. Book a reading if you want an objective opinion
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Books that may help:
The Power of Now by Eckart Tolle,
Nurturing Wellness through Radical Self Care by Janet Gallagher,
Books by Byron Katie,
Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain,
The Artists Way by Julia Cameron,
​Something More; Excavating your Authentic Self by Sarah Ban Breathnach

Have fun with this exploration! Play! Try different music or tools for meditation, take it outside, look in the mirror when repeating affirmations, read a new book, listen to a lecture, draw, paint, colour, journal, …
These are tools that you can use to explore many aspects of your being. Find what works for you.

​For now we’ll keep it to working towards Holistic Balance through change, but later you may want to take it elsewhere.

Phase 1 in the Journey – Emotions (A Journey Into A Holistic Approach to Disc0vering Balance During Covid19 – 4)

I think that one of the downsides to people feeling safe to share their journey towards holistic balance is Toxic Positivity. Ourselves or others can often feel uncomfortable with emotion, and so will downplay it in others, or we stuff it down in ourselves. Neither are healthy and that is not what this journey will be about. It’s time to get honest with how you’re feeling.

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There really are no right or wrong feelings about all of the drastic changes to our lives due to the Covid19 pandemic. They are all normal, correct and understandable. Which ones do you identify with?
  • Shock
  • Grief
  • Despair
  • Depression
  • Calm
  • Peace
  • Uncertainty
  • Curiousity
  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Frustration
  • Overwhelm
  • Fear
  • Surprise
  • Stress
  • Denial
  • Other

 

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As you recognize each of the emotions that you have, do you identify where in your body you’re also feeling them physcially? Where they are expressing in your Spirit? A first step in creating holistic balance is first acknowledging and accepting your feelings about change, without feeling the need to justify or judge or suppress.

It can be simple frustrations such as not being able to find paper towels, toilet paper or flour in the stores, surprise that your kids can no longer play in parks, depression in not having any social interactions at work or with friends, fear and uncertainty with more questions than answers…

Allowing your feelings is healthy. Emotions are energy and in order to eventually be released, energy has to be allowed to move. Same thing with emotions, and yes, it can be super uncomfortable to allow our own emotions and to witness those of others.
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The next step is to acknowledge that how you’re feeling mentally/emotionally is impacting you on all levels of mind, body and spirit. Checking in on how it feels physically often requires some action to get out of your head and into your body. Meditation, contemplation and physical activity are really helpful.
The final step in this phase is to cut yourself some slack. Allow the feelings, all of them and how they fluctuate. During this phase radical self-care is called for as we work towards managing our emotions constructively and turn towards allowing holistic balance.

Radical Self-Care during Phase 1 of Your Holistic Journey

Some of the following suggestions may seem like band-aid solutions to the emotions you’re feeling about the changes you’re experiencing due to Covid19. They are band-aid solutions for now. During this first phase in creating holistic balance your creating space for emotions and looking after yourself through that phase. (You’re also teaching your loved ones that it’s ok to have the emotions and to explore self-care techniques that work for them)

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Ways to Safely Express Emotion

Don’t suppress them or tamp them down! Allow the energy of the emotions to move through you and if they get too much go ahead and scream in the car, cry, stamp your feet. Journaling through writing or art, breath work, laughter and physical movement are all great ways to safely express emotions.

My favourite way is to put on the music and dance with abandon. As I move the emotional energy moves as well. I encourage you to explore and discover new ways that feel good to you.

Nurturing Yourself Through the Tough Days

This can be a really interesting way to find out just what radical self-care looks like for you as you explore different methods.

  • Eating healthy foods,
  • Carrying crystals,
  • Aromatherapy,
  • Getting Physical with activity you love
  • Switching from listening to the Blues,
  • Watching comedies instead of dramas,
  • Turning off the news every day
  • Chat with friends and family through video or phone

… wrap yourself in comfort and care (yes, you are also teaching your children to care for themselves through example)

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Explore Aromatherapy

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Carry crystals

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Dance with abandon

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Spending time with friends and family on line until you can gather together again

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Journaling through written word, drawing, painting…

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Exploring activities that bring joy
It’s ok to sit in this phase of discovering Holistic Balance for a period of time as you explore what works for you. But we’re not going to wallow or set up camp in this phase for too long. That being said, there is no timeline. As I said in a previous post, you will work through this journey as it works for you and there is no right or wrong way. Get comfortable with self-care and emotional expression as best you can. Perhaps the weekly calendar guide below can help with that.

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