When You Let Yourself Down…Then What?

The ever typical peace keeper, despite best efforts not to be, I find myself slipping into that role time and again. Boundaries were never something I learned. Growing up in an alcoholic home they just didn’t exist. I earned my gold medal in peacekeeping just to try to maintain some space between myself and the chaos that surrounded me. Unfortunately it’s a tough role to break…but I will continue to make it a work in progress.

With a lot of self work and reflection, boundaries have become something more familiar and I’ve identified a number of them that work for me. The difficult thing about having boundaries is knowing when to set them. For myself, it’s usually after I’ve allowed them to be pushed, a number of times, in my efforts to keep the peace and oh yes, did I mention I’m also working towards becoming a reformed people pleaser as well? 

Calgary Reiki Treatments with Teresa Graham, RMTI usually will get to the point of being in exhausted tears before I realize I haven’t held my boundaries and have overextended myself to please. The stress of people pleasing is finally outweighing everything. Once again, I’ve let myself down. Any of this sounding familiar? I suspect it does because I meet a number of others in this life who will tell me of similar circumstances. So what do I tell them and what do I tell myself? 


First and foremost cut yourself some slack. After I’ve kicked myself a couple of times and wiped the tears away I remember to tell myself that yes, I caught myself again, I messed up, but I did catch myself and perhaps next time I will catch myself sooner.  That does happen.


As soon as you realize the boundaries have been breached put them back in place. Take a few moments to recognize where you’ve been lax in holding your own space and gift yourself by putting those boundaries up. Then take a breath.

I use to feel that I couldn’t, that it was too late, that people wouldn’t like it…yeah, the people pleaser raises it’s loud and ugly voice to say “What will others think of me?”. But the more important question is how will you feel about yourself if you don’t? I thought so…nail those things up if have to, but put them up.

3. Say NO

Say no and don’t justify it. You really don’t owe anyone a reason or justification for putting your boundaries up and beginning to say no. Yes, it means you have switched gears, people may not like it, but is it worth the stress to not do it? Certainly if people ask and you feel as though you want to explain, you can, however at times that can be exhausting. Right now you’re doing the work of holding the boundaries in place and rebuilding yourself, and that needs to come first.

4. Celebrate you

Be You

Celebrate your Amazingness!

Hey, you were successful, you figured it out, you caught up with your boundaries, set them, took a breath and now it’s time to celebrate that amazingness that is your achievement. Yes, there will likely be more occurrences of boundary violation and people pleasing mishaps, but not today.

​Your only human and that is something to celebrate. Give yourself the pat on the back, the toast with champagne or whatever way you celebrate you!


Gentle Stretches for Weekend Warriors

Despite it’s title as being for gardeners, this clip that I discovered has really great gentle stretches for most weekend warrior activities. What I like is the information given to work with YOUR body and where it is now in it’s ability and flexibility, and not to push to a point of pain. I would recommend these stretches to my dance students and clients who are more physically active on their time off. It is really well done!

Weekend Warrior Muscle Care

261538_10150305603031539_681361538_9623919_3322552_nThe dictionary describes a Weekend Warrior as “someone who participates in what is usually a very strenuous activity only on the weekends, or part time.”
Can you guess who books in for sessions the most in the early days of the week, especially during the spring? Weekend Warriors, especially the gardening variety!

I totally understand it. As soon as the weather starts to warm, even just a little, I’m out digging in my garden and forgetting that hours have passed….until I go to move. While I am active as a dance teacher, I use different muscles groups to garden and they are the ones that complain.

Over the next few weeks I will be posting blogs that focus on some tips that will help those hardworking muscles whether it’s gardening, golf, hiking, picnic12dancing, or whatever your warrior pleasure may be. Ways to ease the muscle ache or avoid it all together

Probably something we all forget is that once we’ve pushed ourselves in an activity our muscles have had a really good work out and need to be treated. This includes drinking extra water, gentle counter stretching, and some warm water treatments such as soaking
in a bath with epsom salts. Muscles just love warm moist heat to help them ease, relax and recover.

Coming up…
Stretches487357_263419263767005_1115576424_n for before and after your warrior session
What is the best muscle treatment after a warrior weekend…not necessarily massage
Foods that keep your muscles hydrated

​…and more

Positive 2014 !

Happy New YearLike most years, the past 12 months have certainly been ones of change, struggle and blessing for all, with many people saying that the world and it’s changes seem to be pushing us along at a breakneck speed….I certainly did find that to be true this year!

There were 2 big events in my life last year that pushed me to grow, change and love more! I met the beautiful woman whom my son has chosen to share his life with and fell in love with her quickly. The sparkle in her eyes, the warmth in her smile and the joy I see in my son’s face…  what more could a mum want?
The 2nd being the opening of my new clinic space in Abbotsford, which isn’t as big an event as were the changes it forced me to make from within.

I’ve found this past year that in allowing myself to go with the flow of events and opportunities that life presented me with, (which by no means is an easy task) and giving up the need to know all details in advance, that’s right….just trust …life and its many gifts have flowed more easily and effortlessly. That’s not to say that it isn’t a struggle to just let go and move with the flow, it really is, but I’m finding it easier and easier as I see results coming quickly and in much better ways than I even imagined. Sounds like something out of a self-help manual, I know…I’ve read so many of them and have finally, after many years, come to the experience of just allowing the flow of good and allowing myself to be surprised by results.

In that allowing I’ve also experienced drawing new and different people into my life. People who match more closely that new path that my life appears to be flowing along. It’s been fascinating to share with and learn from them and to have made some amazing new friends.

Things surfaced this past year that forced me to look at what was working in my life and equally, what was holding me back. What was I struggling to “make” work, what experiences were sucking away at my energy…and what I had to take the difficult steps to just let go of. I’m not sure. but I think that letting go of things/people/problems/events is harder than trusting the flow, to trust that if it is meant to be then it will stay or flow back into your life and if not…well, the white flag of surrender goes up.

This past week I’ve seen quite a few articles, pictures and conversations happening around New Years Resolutions and promises…I don’t tend to make them and after the year I’ve just had I think life brings you greater blessings when you resolve to be the wonderful person that you currently are and grow from there, when you trust that things will get better and then allow life to lead you down that path of wonder (even though it may not be the path you had chosen), when you trust, when you let go, when you open yourself to receive.

Wishing you a wonderful and healthy 2014 filled with energy, peace, joy, surprises, openings and blessings!

At a soon to be announced upcoming Open House, many will have the opportunity to see what wonderful holistically healthy life choices are going to be coming available at the Abbotsford clinic!

Back to Nature…in more ways than one!

We are enjoying a truly fabulous time of beautiful weather. My garden has exploded with greenery!

It doesn’t happen often and it doesn’t stay for long so I want to offer YOU the opportunity to enjoy a natural Holistic Health Session outdoors this week (inside if you prefer).

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Reiki and the Art of Sharing

Whether through individual sessions or classes this amazing ancient healing art is imbued with love and light!

789What is Reiki?

Reiki (pronounced Ray-key) is an ancient Japanese healing art that encourages the natural energies that are around and within us to come into balance. Like the energies that help a plant to grow, blossom and develop Reiki provides a space for our mind, body and spirit to do the same. When our body is in a state of total relaxation it has the opportunity to heal itself, Reiki promotes this way of being and increases the energy within us that is often depleted through stress, trauma and illness. Enhancement of health and reduction of stress encourages the body, mind and spirit to come into a state of harmony and retain a sense of peace within.

Reiki is beneficial for relieving many symptoms that are associated with headaches (whether migraine or stress related), PMS & Menopause symptoms, Depression and Stress, Injury due to accident or surgery, Arthritis, Respiratory illnesses, MS and works exceptionally well to relieve the pain and nausea associated with Chemotherapy and Radiation. It balances, refreshes, rejuvenates and restores!

A Reiki Master since 1996, I follow the traditional Usui method of Reiki in both the sessions shared with clients and classes shared with students. 786 The practice of Reiki has become a daily way of living gently and lovingly upon the earth and is just a natural part of sharing love with my family (including pets), friends, clients and the world around me. One benefit I find to Reiki is the ability (after taking the 2nd degree) to send Reiki to others. On the rare occasions that I do watch the news and witness some of the tragedies that are reported locally and around the world I am able to send Reiki out to hopefully help and heal those that are injured from earthquake, war, tsunami, etc. and I am honoured, that in some small way, I can share the gift that is Reiki. The comment often made is “you seem so calm” and Reiki would be the reason for that sense of peace within.

Reiki ~ The Universal Gift

Learning Reiki

REIKI Level 1 Saturday July 27, 9:30 to approx. 5:30

The first level of Reiki shares the history of this ancient healing art following the traditional Usui method.  You will also:

  • learn how to give a treatment to yourself as well as the hand positions to share a full session with another
  • have the opportunity to practice through sharing a session
  • learn how to share a mini Reiki session with another
  • discover the Reiki principles and ways in which you can work with them to enhance your well-being
  • have 2 attunements in which your ability to channel Reiki energy is opened (gradually) and sealed
  • take home notes with information about Reiki from the perspective of different Masters, the hands on positions for a session, a copy of the Reiki principles and some basic information about natural healing with Reiki
  • learn ways to share Reiki with animals, provide first aid and help plants to grow

840This is a certificate class, certificate will be provided at the end of the day.

Summer classes held in beautiful surrounds of my Fort Langley home where nature thrives! Old growth trees, birds and squirrels all add to the joyful Reiki. Weather permitting we may take portions of the class to the outdoors.

Cost: $200.00 (plus gst) 50% deposit is required when you pre-register in order to hold a space in the class

English: Illustration of the main 7 Chakras, a...

English: Illustration of the main 7 Chakras, as taught by contemporary Reiki masters. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

REIKI Level 2 Saturday August 24, 9:30 to approx. 5:30

A further journey that takes you deeper into the practice of Reiki. You will:

  • be provided with symbols that enhance the use of Reiki energy when sharing with others and allow you to send Reiki energy healing long distance
  • have the opportunity to practice with the symbols while giving a session
  • learn how to balance the chakras and the female/male energies during a session
  • take home notes with information shared from various Reiki Masters regarding the 2nd degree, the symbols and ways in which to use them, information about the chakras
  • have 1 attunement sealing the symbols into your natural Reiki energy

This is a certificate class and certificate will be provided upon completion of this level. Pre-requisite: Completion of Reiki Level 1 no less than 3 weeks prior to the beginning of this class.

Cost: $275.00 (plus gst) 50% deposit is required when you pre-register in order to hold a space in class for you.

REIKI Level 3 ‘Personal Mastery’ ~ Advance Reiki Training Saturday, August 31st – 8:30 to 5:30 plus a Reiki Grid creation evening on Saturday Sept. 7th, 4pm start (there is some preparation work to complete and submit prior to the class date, early registration is recommended)

This advanced study of Reiki energy focuses on the practitioner’s connection with Universal energy both conceptually and energetically. Reiki energy is explored through the spirit of oneness and is beneficial whether you plan to continue to the Master/Teacher level or not. It will improve and strengthen the flow of Reiki energy for yourself and assist in developing confidence as a Reiki practitioner. Taking the journey inward to reach and heal our own core is essential to advancing our sharing of Reiki energy. Students often find this level to be one of the biggest steps and an empowering experience in their personal sense of deep inner peace. Prior to the class are a series of assignments intended to be supportive as well as informative to both the practitioner and the teacher, helping both of us to develop further insight into your understanding of Reiki. There are no wrong answers to the assignment questions as we all practice Reiki in an individual way. Reiki assignments will be given upon paid registration.

During the Reiki Class you will

  • Be given the Master Symbol which facilitates unlocking the full potential of Reiki Energy and assists to greatly increase healing
  • Learn meditative techniques to develop a clearer channel of  life force energy, expand consciousness, strengthen the mind and become one with the Master Symbol
  • Take the Chakra balancing techniques taught in Reiki 2 and learn to clear and re-energize those that are “stuck”
  • Learn how to clear, energize and imbue crystals with Reiki energy
  • Learn how to bring Crystals, Aromatherapy and Colour Therapy into your practice to enhance Reiki energy
  • Learn different methods of creating sacred space for Reiki practice and sessions through participating in setting up the space for the day’s class
  • Have the opportunity to practice what you’ve learned through sharing a session and to also experience the increased energy through receiving a session
  • Take home notes with information shared from various Reiki Masters regarding the 3rd degree, the Master Symbol and ways in which to use it, information about chakra clearing, crystals, aromatherapy and colour therapy
  • Receive a Reiki 3 kit that will include crystals, essential oils and a music CD for use in developing quiet sacred space as you delve into your inner Reiki practice
  • Ongoing support in the 6 months following through email or phone sessions.

This is a certificate class. The certificate will be given after completion of pre-class assignments, the Reiki 3 class and the Grid creation workshop. Pre-requisite: Completion of Reiki Levels 1 & 2 no less than 3 months prior to the class date.

Cost: $385.00 (plus gst). A 50% deposit is required to hold a space in class. Class space is limited to ensure a personalized learning experience.

MASTER Teacher Level

“To be a great teacher we need to learn to be not a  sage on the stage, but a guide on the side.” -Author unknown

This level may take 6 months to a year to complete as you are encouraged to work at your own pace. The specific focus at this level is on cultivating the art of teaching Reiki and guiding others in their personal practice. Ongoing self-development in your relationship with Reiki is also required.

During this level you will

  • learn to give attunements for Levels 1, 2 & 3
  • receive the final symbol for Reiki mastery as well as additional symbols to empower your practice of this healing art
  • learn additional advanced meditative techniques to assist your journey as a teacher and practitioner
  • with assistance and guidance develop your own class content and curriculum for teaching Reiki Levels 1, 2, & 3
  • learn the ethics and responsibilities of your role as a teacher
  • assist and observe a Reiki 1 or 2 class
  • host and teach a level 1 class with assistance
  • receive ongoing one on one mentoring
  • receive 4 Reiki sessions at close intervals (optimally 4 days in a row) to clear, balance and charge your connection
  • receive an attunement and initiation to the Master/Teacher level of Reiki

Preparation for this course begins after completing Reiki Level 3 and is the final step towards sharing Reiki as a teacher of this healing art. There will be 4 to 5 full day classes throughout the time that this level is being completed, in addition to a day of observation of a class and a day of teaching your own class. Please contact me for scheduling when you feel ready to begin. Cost: $1800.00 (plus gst). Payment plans available.

If you are a group of people wishing to take Reiki classes and are not in the Fort Langley area please contact me, I’m happy, if possible, to travel to you.

Rejuvenating Reiki in July

Hands of light

The month of July is all about Reiki with Healthy session specials, classes and an upcoming crystal grid workshop!

What is Reiki? (click to read more)



The bursting of summer light always increases my mindfulness of Reiki and it’s beautiful, warm energies…something we can all attune to.

July’s Health Session Special

The Reiki Series

An ancient Japanese healing art, Reiki has a profound effect on balancing your inner and outer energies, healing Mind, Body & Spirit.

The best way to effect a change in our physical and emotional well-being through Reiki is to have 3 to 4 sessions close together, optimally over 3 to 4 days. While the optimal doesn’t fit into everybody’s busy schedule the following Reiki specials are designed to work for YOU!

Special #1 ~ The single Reiki session for the month of July enjoy your session for only $60 (plus gst)

Special #2 ~ Clear out the old and set up and reaffirm the new with The Threesome: 3 Reiki sessions for $155 (plus gst)

Special #3 ~ Because they go so well together and clients love this…The Reiki Massage: Combining Relaxation Massage and Reiki energy for 1 1/2 hours of harmonious bliss. $95 (plus gst)

Your session(s) must be booked and received between July 1st and August 15, 2013. Gift Certificates may not be used towards or purchased for monthly sessions.

Reiki Classes

Reiki Level 1 ~ Saturday, July 27th (more information click here)

Reiki Level 2 ~ Saturday, August 24th (more information click here)
More about Level 2 Reiki ~ The Journey Continues

Reiki Level 3 ~ Saturday, August 31st (more information click here)

Reiki Exchange

Saturdays August 10th & September 7th, 12:30 to 2:30 pm

For Reiki students and practitioners to exchange and practice sessions with each other. If you have completed at least your Reiki Level 1 you are welcome to come and share an afternoon of exchange. An opportunity to give and receive sessions, ask questions and enjoy the quiet energy. Space is limited, please pre-register.

Cost $7.00/ session (includes refreshments and linens). Please let me know when you pre-register if you have a portable table that you are able to share.

NEW Crystal Grid Workshop happening Saturday, September 7th ~ watch upcoming posts for more information!


fbpersprof1A Reiki Master since 1996, I follow the traditional Usui method of Reiki in both the sessions shared with clients and classes shared with students.  The practice of Reiki has become a daily way of living gently and lovingly upon the earth and is just a natural part of sharing love with my family (including pets), friends, clients and the world around me. One benefit I find to Reiki is the ability (after taking the 2nd degree) to send Reiki to others. On the rare occasions that I do watch the news and witness some of the tragedies that are reported locally and around the world I am able to send Reiki out to hopefully help and heal those that are injured from earthquake, war, tsunami, etc. and I am honoured, that in some small way, I can share the gift that is Reiki. The comment often made is “you seem so calm” and Reiki would be the reason for that sense of peace within.

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