Spring Clean Yourself (Part 2) The Mental

(To read Spring Clean Yourself Part One click here)

Far more important than cleaning the house is cleaning up the hamster wheel of thoughts in your head that no longer serve you. Those disempowering thoughts, feelings and old worn out stories that come along with guilt, fear, anger, shame, regret, etc. that are taking up space and not paying rent to be there.

TURN IT AROUND

zzzTake a moment to decide how these old thoughts may be serving you in some way. Do they make you feel protected? Do you feel yourself to be lacking because of them? Is the idea of letting go of them scary? Why? Are these thoughts true?

You can begin to declutter the space these useless thoughts take up by looking for more positive thoughts to replace them with. Did you learn something from the old story? Is it a lesson that has served you well since? Does that old thought fit with who you are today?

GET THEM OUT!

zzzaLook for ways to get the thoughts out of your head. Put them down on paper with as much detail as possible (you may need some kleenex handy because this can often bring up emotions too. But, that is a good thing). Is everything down? All of it? Now burn that paper and watch those old thoughts disintegrate into ash. (you can type and delete but it is not nearly as powerful)

Are there scraps of old thoughts left churning around in your head? Go and do something physical and get out of your head and into your body. Notice how your body feels while you’re doing it. Notice your heart beat and the rhythm of your breath. Physical activity can be like a cleansing breeze for the mind, cleaning itself out while your focus is elsewhere.

MOVE FORWARD

zzdSeek out positive, uplifting people, experiences and activities to create new memories to think about. Get together with good friends and enjoy great conversation, open up a new thought provoking book, create a new adventure for yourself and just try new things.

Your mind will have a whole load of new and positive things to occupy itself with.

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When You Let Yourself Down…Then What?

The ever typical peace keeper, despite best efforts not to be, I find myself slipping into that role time and again. Boundaries were never something I learned. Growing up in an alcoholic home they just didn’t exist. I earned my gold medal in peacekeeping just to try to maintain some space between myself and the chaos that surrounded me. Unfortunately it’s a tough role to break…but I will continue to make it a work in progress.

With a lot of self work and reflection, boundaries have become something more familiar and I’ve identified a number of them that work for me. The difficult thing about having boundaries is knowing when to set them. For myself, it’s usually after I’ve allowed them to be pushed, a number of times, in my efforts to keep the peace and oh yes, did I mention I’m also working towards becoming a reformed people pleaser as well? 

Calgary Reiki Treatments with Teresa Graham, RMTI usually will get to the point of being in exhausted tears before I realize I haven’t held my boundaries and have overextended myself to please. The stress of people pleasing is finally outweighing everything. Once again, I’ve let myself down. Any of this sounding familiar? I suspect it does because I meet a number of others in this life who will tell me of similar circumstances. So what do I tell them and what do I tell myself? 

1. FORGIVE  YOURSELF

First and foremost cut yourself some slack. After I’ve kicked myself a couple of times and wiped the tears away I remember to tell myself that yes, I caught myself again, I messed up, but I did catch myself and perhaps next time I will catch myself sooner.  That does happen.

2. STOP IT!

As soon as you realize the boundaries have been breached put them back in place. Take a few moments to recognize where you’ve been lax in holding your own space and gift yourself by putting those boundaries up. Then take a breath.

I use to feel that I couldn’t, that it was too late, that people wouldn’t like it…yeah, the people pleaser raises it’s loud and ugly voice to say “What will others think of me?”. But the more important question is how will you feel about yourself if you don’t? I thought so…nail those things up if have to, but put them up.

3. Say NO

Say no and don’t justify it. You really don’t owe anyone a reason or justification for putting your boundaries up and beginning to say no. Yes, it means you have switched gears, people may not like it, but is it worth the stress to not do it? Certainly if people ask and you feel as though you want to explain, you can, however at times that can be exhausting. Right now you’re doing the work of holding the boundaries in place and rebuilding yourself, and that needs to come first.

4. Celebrate you

Be You

Celebrate your Amazingness!

Hey, you were successful, you figured it out, you caught up with your boundaries, set them, took a breath and now it’s time to celebrate that amazingness that is your achievement. Yes, there will likely be more occurrences of boundary violation and people pleasing mishaps, but not today.

​Your only human and that is something to celebrate. Give yourself the pat on the back, the toast with champagne or whatever way you celebrate you!

Gentle Stretches for Weekend Warriors

Despite it’s title as being for gardeners, this clip that I discovered has really great gentle stretches for most weekend warrior activities. What I like is the information given to work with YOUR body and where it is now in it’s ability and flexibility, and not to push to a point of pain. I would recommend these stretches to my dance students and clients who are more physically active on their time off. It is really well done!

Treats for your Feet ~ Sept.24 to 28

Brooklyn Museum - Foot Bath - John R. Frazier ...

Are your feet hesitant to move out of sandals and back into shoes? Let’s do something to make it easier!

 Something Special for your Feet Sept. 24 to 28, 2013


Your session begins with an Aromatherapy Foot Bath to which detoxifying mineral salts have been added. Time for you to sit back, enjoy the peaceful atmosphere, sip some water and let the relaxation begin!

Next, sit back in comfort and enjoy a Knee to Toe Massage OR a Foot Reflexology session

And Finally, allow your skin to hydrate as moisturizing lotion is massaged into your muscles from knees to toes, then wrapped up in a soft and cozy towel. Take some time to sit a little longer, relax a little further and sip some hydrating water

Langley ~ Sept. 24th, 26th & 28th
Chilliwack ~ Sept. 25th & 27th

 

Only $50 (plus gst)
(regularly $75) 
A 32% saving!
Book Early handtohealth@gmail.com 

2 September Specials for a Healthier YOU!

 

SPINAL TOUCH SPECIAL

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Is your Spine in alignment? Shoulders, hips and ears level? Ankle, Knee, Hip, Shoulder and Ear all in line?
If not you are probably experiencing pain and imbalance due to muscular distortion.  Spinal Touch can help with that! Muscular distortion pulls on the joints, over stretches tendons and puts pressure on your organs.
Click here for more information about Spinal Touch

September Threesome Special
Click here for information about sessions and why the Threesome Treatment is the best way to get the most from Spinal Touch
**Reg. $135 Sept. Special $110 (plus gst). To receive the September special price your sessions must be booked on days that optimize results…please ask.
**Touch-up special for those who have already had their initial 3…. $37 (plus gst)

AND

September’s Back to School Special for all the Students of “Life”

Massaging the IT Band to reduce muscular tension on both the hip and knee joints

Stretch & Massage Back to school, work, raking leaves, texting, typing, canning…just may mean that you are going to be using your muscles in a new and different way and there is a special for that!
Enjoy a Relaxation Massage with Muscle Stretching to back, neck, shoulders, arms and hands PLUS Indian Head Massage (no oil) for that hard working mind.
An hour plus a quarter of bliss for only $75.00 (plus gst) (Add oil to champissage for an additional $7)

 

** Please Note: September Specials must be booked & received between Sept. 1 & 30, 2013. Gift Certificates may not be used towards or purchased for monthly health session specials.

 

Be sure to visit my updated website with new workshops and special new events for Autumn 2013 at www.handtohealth.com !

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